Journey to becoming better human being - 7


Whom should I listen to?

 


Today was a bad day for me. Once again, the same issue with the manager. For no fault of mine he picked up holes in my work and humiliated me.

 

“Why don’t you teach him a lesson?” said a friend. We were little early for our weekly meeting and sensing my mood he had enquired the cause.

 

“Complain against him to his boss”. “Find out his weak areas and punch on that”. “Don’t share with him key information and let him face the music”. “Don’t co-operate on other projects” Poured a heap of suggestions. I was wondering whether I should do that.

 

“Why don’t you give up the job” came another suggestion. “When you will not be there, he will realise your importance and regret the treatment he meted out to you”.

 

I was stunned. I had never looked at my job in this way. Here are some well meaning friends giving advise on what I should do with my job. Should I listen to them? In fact, whom should I listen to?

 

I proposed that as a topic for discussion. Confronted with different issues in life, whom should we listen to? I can’t expect advise from my parents who do not know the complexities involved. My college teacher can teach me a subject, but he himself was carrying on with not so good a job.

 

“The best way is to look within” “The best source of guidance is deep within you”

 

Can it be so? If so, a doubt arose in my mind about how I can tap it.

 

“You can personate your deep feeling in the form of an internal guide. It could be an image of a living person or dead or even an imaginary person. Some people keep their parents or grandparents or teachers or friends or image of some god as an image of internal guide”.

 

“You can close your eyes and think about the guide. You can feel the presence of the guide and with the guide you can dialogue about the important issues of your life”

 

“It is important to have image of a fixed person and every time work with the same person. Over time, one may change the person, but it should remain constant and not changing every now and then.”

 

I was wondering whom I should take as my internal guide. I could think of so many people around me now and in the past. How to choose?

 

“The person you chose should have three qualities - wisdom, kindness and strength”.

 

I closed my eyes and thought of a person. I tried to talk to him about the situation of the job and could see that the idea of doing any harm to my manager was misplaced that I should look at the ‘what for’ for my job and since it was learning I should evaluate whether I am progressing on those lines or not. If yes, I should continue and accept the price and if not, I should leave the job and explore where I will get what I want”

 

I realised the power of the three qualities – wisdom, kindness and strength. I also realised that through the image of the Internal Guide, it was a voice deep within me that was responding. Now I have a person whose help I can seek at any time and in all situations.

 

“Internal Guide”. A new learning and a step ahead - In my journey of becoming better person.

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